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Loving Others at their Worst!

How do we as Christians dialog with those who have a very different, if not antagonistic, viewpoint?

It is tempting to either argue or be silent, but neither response is helpful. Here are wise words from Scott Sauls entitled "Loving Others at their Worst" from a Devotionals Dailys email I recently received. It is powerful! (You can find the original post here at

When Saturday Night Live comedian Pete Davidson crudely mocked Congressman-elect Dan Crenshaw because of his eye patch and flippantly remarked, "I know he lost his eye in the war or whatever," no one expected the former Navy SEAL and decorated war hero to respond to the insults in the way that he did.

The mockery of Crenshaw's combat-inflicted disability, motivated by Davidson's disdain for his political views, resulted in such a strong public backlash that Davidson fell into depression and self-loathing.

He (Davidson) wrote in an Instagram post, "I really don't want to be on this earth anymore. I'm doing my best to stay here for you but I actually don't know how much longer I can last. All I've ever tried to do was help people. Just remember I told you so."

Having lost his eye in combat in Afghanistan due to an explosion, some might have expected Crenshaw to say of Davidson, "Well, it serves him right." He could have added to the backlash or simply ignored the comedian.

Instead, the veteran privately reached out to befriend, encourage, and speak life-giving words to Davidson.

He told the comedian that everyone had a purpose in this world and that "God put you here for a reason. It’s your job to find that purpose. And you should live that way."

Instead of firing back, Crenshaw built a bridge. Instead of shaming and scolding, he spoke tenderly. Instead of seeking vindication through retaliation, he sought friendship through peacemaking. Instead of adding to the cycle of outrage, he soundly defeated outrage with a gesture of unconditional love.

Moved by compassion for the pain that Davidson had brought upon himself at Crenshaw's expense, the man trained in military strike and defense offered a gentle answer — so gentle, in fact, that it turned away the wrath of another man's political ire and the wrath of that same man's subsequent self-loathing.

Then, on Veteran’s Day weekend (2018), the two came face to face on Saturday Night Live to make amends. Crenshaw offered warm remarks and high praise in reference to Davidson's own father, who was a New York City firefighter who died in the September 11, 2001, terrorist attacks when Davidson was seven years old.

At the end of the segment, when he thought they were off camera, the embattled and humbled comedian leaned over to Crenshaw and whispered, "You are a good man".

Such stories of kindness, forgiveness, and reconciliation can help us when we are faced with our own decisions. Do we take offense and strike back, or do we seek to extend kindness and offer a gentle answer?

It applies when we are at odds with a family member, when we butt heads with a colleague, when our views are criticized online, when our children don't listen to or respect us, when someone rejects us because of our faith or our race or our social rank, or when we feel misunderstood by those of a different generation or economic situation or culture.

Those of us who identify as Christian have been given a resource that enables us to respond to outrage and wrath in a healing, productive, and life-giving way.

Because Jesus Christ has loved us at our worst, we can love others at their worst.

In Ephesians 4:32, Paul instructs us, "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."

As Christians, we are called to love even our enemies (Matthew 5:44) and to speak truth with love. "Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone" (Colossians 4:6).

Let's show the world that we are loving others unconditionally just as Jesus loves!

See you soon. Mahalo and Aloha ke Akua!

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